Three questions here, for flash, banned player status, and action icon changes

Question Number #1
How does one upload their flash to their own forums rather than use url from a different website?
A permanent upload rather than a temporary url that expires over time.

Question Number #2
How does one edit the forums edit features?

Changing each button's own icon.

Question Number #3
How does one add make a banned player status?

1.  Do you mean this:  https://help.forumotion.com/t66572-attachments?highlight=attachments ?

2.  http://fmdesign.forumotion.com/t212-change-the-button-icons-of-the-editor

3.  https://help.forumotion.com/t10774-banning-a-member